"My Ex Will Want Your Book!"

 

“My Ex will want to buy your Book!”

It’s really important to stress that the Bad Men we are talking about in my book are a very small minority of the otherwise glorious world of GOOD MEN. There are MILLIONS of good men out there, I’m lucky enough to know loads and loads of wonderfully good men and I am blessed to totally and utterly love and adore one, my Husband.

I have had several male friends say to me “oh heck, I have ex’s who will want your book!” and my response is always but you are NOT one of those types of men. Sure, yes, over all of our dating years and even our relationship years we ALL mess up and I am in no doubt I have several ex’s who will have stories of how I didn’t treat them well…and I probably didn’t! But here’s the thing…we learn. We evolve, we take all of our experiences and we progress and if, yes, we have hurt someone un-intentionally or even intentionally at that time, we SEE the pain it causes, we FEEL the pangs of guilt and we alter ourselves to try our best not to make that mistake again. Sometimes, we make many mistakes, in many different relationship but we learn and we continue to grow. BAD MEN DO NOT DO THIS.  

Bad Men feel no guilt, no regret. They deliberately cause instability in their partner to serve their own ends, through tried and tested methods, on many previous partners. They have no intention of changing anything about their behaviour and some of them even enjoy their Bad Man status!

So, when a woman says to me that all her ex’s were bad men, I make no bones about pointing out that they probably all weren’t. And when good men say to me “there are bad women too you know” I respond with YES there are...