Friends of Friends To Date

 Who do you know? Do they know you are looking for love? 

Who do they know? Do they have friends looking for love too?

My gorgeous friends have been blissfully married for a few years now and met in both of their late 40's. However they had had mutual friends for years, who had never suggested they meet! Sam said to her friend "Did it never occur to you over the years to introduce me to Steve when I was single?!?"

No, obviously not but why not when they were so clearly perfect for each other!!

Back in the day, being set up on a 'blind date' by friends or family was one of the only ways to meet someone new when there was no Internet and we all lived in much smaller communities but it seems to completely have gone out of fashion! That is SUCH a shame because who knows you better than your friends and family??

It is even more of a shame also because now we all know and know of sooo many more people than we ever did back then. People at work (often jobs are more on the road now therefore creating many more interactions or we travel to a different town to work increasing our area circle) people at clubs (we are now attending more clubs, more gyms, more classes, more meetings because of excellent transport and road links than we ever did before) people socially (we are FAR more social creatures now because eating out is cheaper than it used to be and there are far more outlets, there are more events, shows, festivals, concerts) and people virtually (there aren't many of us now who aren't on some form of social media or interact with sites of some form and often times we have 'friends' on our lists that we don't even know) 

I know I have more friends and acquaintances than I used to have because every New Year when I fill in my calendar for the coming year, the 'Birthdays' take up most of the pages! 

So do you see where I am going with this? Your friends, your family, your work colleagues, your virtual friends may know THE PERFECT GUY for you and they just haven't had the lightbulb moment of "hey, you know what, I know someone you might like to connect with, you guys are so alike!" 

And they haven't had that eureka 'blind date' matchmaker vision because we are all so darn bloomin busy and wrapped up in our own plate spinning lives that it's no wonder they haven't joined the dots. You need to join them for them!! And you need to join the dots for as many of your friends, family, colleagues and virtual friends as you can!! Get that message out there...I am looking to meet someone, do you know of any great guys?!?  

Now before you recoil in horror and scream at me, "I CAN'T TELL THEM THAT, I'd be so embarrassed!!!" come on...really...you're an intelligent women, you can come up with subtler ways. Imagine this conversation:

You: " Hi it's lovely to see you, how are you?"

Her: "oh I'm good, just tryin to get thro!"

You: "Yeah, tell me about it, I went on a date for the first time in years the other night, what a disaster"

Her: "oh really? I didn't know you were dating again"

Waiter comes to take the order...

Her: "You know what, I was just thinking, my Husband has this chap he works with, he tells him about his disastrous dating stories too. I've met him once at the works do, he seems really nice...I wonder if you two could connect?"

SEE, it's THAT simple. So come on, you can come up with lot's of subtle ways that you can let EVERYONE you know, know that you are open to meeting someone that they may be connected to...