Time & Punishment - Mr Big B*llocks

I had lunch with a lovely women the other day who told me that her ex partner had admitted to her that whenever things got 'sticky' with a woman he was seeing, he would withdraw communication for two weeks. That was his rule. He would self discipline to not see, ring or message her and 'let her stew' after which point or during the two weeks she would contact him and apologise...even if the argument that had happened was because of something HE had done, which he admitted, it usually was. But he had perfected this 'realise what she's missing' technique over many years and many, many women.  

He knew without a shadow of a doubt that if he waited it out, she would 'come crawling back' and whatever the storm had been, it would all blow over. Minimum emotional discomfort on his part, he would just simply go off on a short trip and wait it out or even indulge in a short fling with another woman until Miss Lucky To Have Him returned, grovel champagne and silk undies in hand. 

He knew full well the emotional devastation, sleepless night and torturous insecurity that she was going through but to him it was all part and parcel of teaching her that she wasn't to rock his boat and complain about the way he behaved and lived his life. He loved his life that way and if she wished to love him she was just bloomin well going to have to learn to live with it. 

In his mind it was her fault that she couldn't and she deserved to be in pain. He was Mr Big B*llocks and if she wanted the honour of being his, she would suffer the two weeks punishment whenever she dared to kick him in them. Many women had kicked and got kicked out over the years and almost all of them had come crawling back...many of them many, many times. This only fuelled his impression of himself as a glorious prize and added more justification to his two week rule...to him. 

So if you are 'being sent to Coventry' (I still need to find out where that saying came from as seen as I now live in the city...) you should ask yourself "Is he playing a mind game?" 

Chances are, he is!